Divorce after 50: 7 ways to bounce back



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Ending a marriage is never easy or simple. But the idea of having to start over can be especially daunting when you're a woman over 50.

Patti Clark, author of "This Way Up: Seven Tools for Unleashing Your Creative Self and Transforming Your Life," identifies seven key actions that women can take to move through the sense of loss toward a life filled with more enthusiasm, creativity and joy.


This Way Up1. Get creative!

  • Keep a journal: externalize your internal process.
  • Garden: play outside.
  • Cook: play with spices, experiment.


2. Start re-wiring your brain: Pay attention to how and what you think

  • Identify the thought process you'd like to transform and set the intention to change it.
  • Interrupt your thoughts and patterns when the negative thoughts arise.
  • Use your imagination and create a positive scenario.


3. Be happy now

  • Practice resilience: meditation can reportedly improve our capacity for resilience.
  • Where is your attention? Focus on what you're doing right now.
  • Practice generosity. Data shows us that when individuals engage in generous and altruistic behavior, they actually activate circuits in the brain that are key to fostering well-being.


4. Focus on love and love yourself first

  • Practice saying 'No' to others and 'Yes' to yourself.
  • Give your body the nurturing, rest and comfort it needs.
  • Prioritize time for yourself without judgment.


5. Be grateful for what you have now

  • Start each day by thinking of one thing that you are grateful for.
  • Use visual reminders. The two primary obstacles to gratefulness are forgetfulness and a lack of mindful awareness.
  • Make a conscious decision to practice gratitude. Making an oath to perform a behavior reportedly increases the likelihood that it will happen.


6. Pay attention to your distractions

  • Instead of hopping on to Facebook, unhook.
  • Instead of having one more glass of wine, go for a walk at sunset.
  • Instead of eating more food, volunteer to feed others.


7. Learn to pay attention to inspiration and take action

  • Wake up 5-10 minutes earlier than usual.
  • Ask a question that you want guidance on then go for a walk and pay attention.
  • When inspiration comes, take some kind of action on it.